We received this Marriage Questionnaire from Ntandoyenkosi in South Africa:
I'm here:
Seeking restoration for my marriage.
What is your current marital status? Please be sure to choose the one that BEST describes your situation.
Separated: I am married, but my husband does not live with me.
Have you read the book "How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage?"
No
How did you find our ministry?
Suggested by a stander on messenger
Now, please tell us about your situation and why you have come to us for help and what has your husband/partner said are the main issues or problems he has with you and your relationship?
There is a third party in our marriage. A married woman who has also left her husband. He said words I don't want to repeat. The problem he says I am too christian
Please use the space below to simply speak to God, in your own words, pouring your heart out to Him.
Lord you know me better than I do. Please fix what needs to be fixed in me and remind my husband who he is and whose he is. Open both our eyes so that we can see and understand. For your name's sake and our children's please show up🙏🏽
In order for us to minister more effectively to you, please check what concerns apply to you:
Custody issues.
Abused or molested as a child.
Please Note: We ask that you reply to this post ONLY if you are an IOU Student working towards qualifying for your Marriage Minister Certificate. We need to see your profile with MTA, MTI, or MTR for your comment to post, for example:
Before commenting, remember to:
- Speak to your Husband, your Maker, to know what He wants to say to this brokenhearted bride.
- Keep it SHORT.
- Encourage sharing 1-2 Promises.
- Bridge to the course He used to lead you along your Restoration Journey.
- When we see a 3 Cord of comments supporting \o/\o/\o/ this bride, we will reply to her email and CLOSE this session. Thank you!!
Dear Ntandoyenkosi,
There is no reason to despair. Even that my marriage ended without a OW, i know what it is to be in despair when you face a divorce. The trial you are now in and going through is not unknown to our Lord. He is the One who knows what is going on and for what purpose this battle has come into your life. Then I’m talking about the third party in your marriage.
One thing I know for sure and would like to encourage you to do is to read the book “How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage. This is a good start to your Recovery Journey. https://encouragingbookstore.com/women-resources/wrym/
But also read this website because a crisis does not just happen and if it does happen, we all know where it comes from. God is our helper and on this page you will receive, for the first moments, the help that for sure will help you get you out despair.
Finally, I would like to encourage you that you are loved by your Heavenly Beloved. He cares for you and knows your sadness, pain and despair. He wants nothing more than for you to give your worries to Him
“…stand firm, and you will see the salvation of the Lord, which He will prepare for you today; for the Egyptians whom you have seen today you will never see again. The Lord will fight for you, and you will be silent. are.”Exodus 14:13-14
“Cast all your cares on Him, for He cares for you.
8Become sober and alert. Your adversary, the devil, walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. 9Resist him firmly in the faith,”1Peter 5:7-8
This bride has a beautiful testimony/novel about the lost custody of her children that she has now regained. It will certainly encourage you. https://narrowroadpublishinghouse.com/rjn-adina/
Many brides have already received emotional healing from the painful moments they have experienced. These testimonials are definitely worth reading and studying. https://hopeatlast.com/get-help-to-hurdles-over-your-fears-with-testimonies-milestones/testimonies-of-emotional-pain-suffering-healed/
Much Love🌹
Que maravilla de poder tenerte aquí con nosotros en este ministerio, te recomiendo que lea el libro Como Dios puede y va a restaurar tu matrimonio, es un libro lleno de todas las promesas para nosotras y de principios que te ayudaran a darte cuenta de muchas cosas y de como nuestro amado quiere bendecirte, y también todos los materiales que tenemos aquí, haz del señor tu primer amor y entrega todo dolor y angustia a el, ve en oración no solo en la mañana o en la noche sino cada vez que sea necesario, orar es hablar con Dios, habla con nuestro amado como un amigo, sabiendo que esta a tu lado y te escucha y te ama mas que a nadie.
Entonces dijo así el SEÑOR: Si vuelves, yo te restauraré, en mi presencia estarás; si apartas lo precioso de lo vil, serás mi portavoz. Que se vuelvan ellos a ti, pero tú no te vuelvas a ellos. Jeremías 15:19
Encomienda a Jehová tu camino,
Y confía en él; y él hará. Salmos: 37:5
Dear, praise the Lord who heard your cry and led you to the answers you need for your journey of restoration! I can identify with you because I experienced my husband’s adultery, and I can tell you that “With God everything is possible”!! Matthew 19:26 Right now He wants you to come to Him in intimacy so that you can know the truth about your situation. Personally, I found it impressive that He revealed to me that I had left my First Love, I was far from him despite going to the Christian church!! I didn’t imagine it! I thought I was a good wife but it turned out I had a lot of responsibility for what was happening in my marriage. Praise be to Him who in His immense mercy showed me the way. I knew that this ministry was the answer to my prayers so I embraced everything I received in the RRR courses https://hopeatlast.com/rrr/ starting with Course 1 https://hopeatlast.com/c1/ I simply followed the path laid out. for Him in this ministry and embraced the principles I learned here and in every course available. To the glory of God He restored my marriage but more importantly He restored me to Him and gave me the best gift of my life, something I never imagined I even needed, a wonderful relationship with Him, my creator, my Maker, My Husband. Heavenly. I have been so blessed by simply having Him, even before my marriage was restored He was (and still is) more than enough for me to make me happy and complete! Dear, this trip is the greatest blessing of your life, knowing Him in this way is worth all the tears shed!!!
Start that beautiful relationship by reading the lessons of Course 1 and pouring your heart out to Him in the journal format at the end of each chapter/lesson because when you talk to Him and tell Him what you think and feel in total honesty, you give Him the place of a friend. and counselor that He desires to be for you right now.
“For your husband is your Maker,
The Lord of hosts is His name;
And your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel,
Who is called the God of the whole earth. Isaiah 54:5
Perfect Anastasia!
Keep it SHORT. ✅
Encourage sharing 1-2 Promises. ✅
Bridge to the course He used to lead you along your Restoration Journey. ✅
Can you also help with Nelly, en Republica Dominicana just above you? Is Nelly registered as an IOU Student? If so, does she have her bio and she’ll need her radiant picture. Can you help her with her contributor signature like yours Anastasia Johnson MTR 🇪🇸
Thank you for your feed back ❤️
Yes, Nelly is registered in RMIOU. I sent her the BIO’s link, and instructions for her Surname NN, her picture, and how she can update her signature and profile on this webpage.
Dear Ntandoyenkosi, I am glad you are here. I am especially glad when you said you would like the Lord to “fix” you. I would strongly encourage you to read the restoration book if you have not had the chance. It will certainly enlighten you as for what changes the Lord may want to see in you.
My husband also led me to share with you this lesson “Crisis Corner”
https://hopeatlast.com/c2/d9-crisis-corner/
“Rest in the LORD, and wait patiently for him: fret not thyself because of him who prospereth in his way, because of the man who bringeth wicked devices to pass.” Psalm 37:7
Well done, Gioia.
Keep it SHORT. ✅
Encourage sharing 1-2 Promises. ✅
Bridge to the course He used to lead you along your Restoration Journey. ✅
As I spoke to Anastasia (above), please get a bio https://rmiou.com/bio/ and radiant picture in your contributor profile, thank you!
P.S.
My Husband led me back here to begin COUNTING since He had us update #5
When we see a 3 Cord of comments supporting \o/\o/\o/ this bride, we will reply to her email and CLOSE this session. Thank you!!
So be sure to count so we don’t overwhelm the new brides and give her too much. What you can do is reply beneath the first 3 to confirm what that MM is saying “Every fact is to be confirmed by the testimony of two or three witnesses.” 2 Corinthians 13:1
Dear Erin, I will work on the bio. Recording is not my strong suit, please bear with me.. But I will get it done.
My dear lady, just like you, my marriage process brought me to this wonderful ministry, here I not only found the Truth that began to confront and heal me; but I also found my Beloved Lord in the midst of my disaster.
I know that at this moment you feel confusion and pain, but I assure you that you can praise because this process will lead you to live differently and to know True Love, your First Love, take advantage of this process to put everything in order and reorganize priorities in your heart. While marriage is a blessing from God, that same blessing should not occupy the favorite place in your heart. That place belongs to the Lord, that is why He wants to restore you; “I am the Lord, the God of all mankind. Is anything too hard for me?” J3227 I encourage you to start your restoration journey by studying course 1: https://uiteindelikhoop.com/kursus/k1/
It will help you understand where to start, in addition to this my Beloved guided me to share the following course that will help you with your concerns: https://loveatlast.org/hhm/
I leave you with this promise for you: “Heal me, Lord, and I will be loyal; save me and I will be saved, for you are the one I praise.” J1714
Kindly done, Jewel.
Keep it SHORT. ✅
Encourage sharing 1-2 Promises. ✅
Bridge to the course He used to lead you along your Restoration Journey ✅ I noticed you took the time to get the Afrikaans lesson for her!
P.S.
My Husband led me back here to begin COUNTING since He had us update #5
When we see a 3 Cord of comments supporting \o/\o/\o/ this bride, we will reply to her email and CLOSE this session. Thank you!!
So be sure to count so we don’t overwhelm the new brides and give her too much. What you can do is reply beneath the first 3 to confirm what that MM is saying, “Every fact is to be confirmed by the testimony of two or three witnesses.” 2 Corinthians 13:1
My dearest I can imagine how you may feel because I too experienced a similar situation, and I know it often makes us feel anxious and want this part of our life to be over with quickly, however this is a time that our Dearest Lord and Maker wants us to embrace by spending time with Him to get closer and know Him better. I too grew up in church believing that just attending made me christian but was really a Pharisee therefore I had a lot to do with our separation also, but it was here in this “alone time”with Him and the help of this ministry and the resources of information and His promises for guidance that I could overcome those feelings and accepted that He is my strenght and with HIm all is possible.
Sweet bride see Him as your all and know that He will bring you out victorious of this trial. I encourage you to read the course one and some speciefic lessons like https://hopeatlast.com/c1/d3-chapter-3-have-faith/ knowing that He willl be with you always, also https://hopeatlast.com/c1/d4-chapter-4-various-trials/ to understand why we go through these situations, and finally https://hopeatlast.com/c1/d12-chapter-10-he-turns-the-heart/ HE knows our heart and HE heals it, He holds it carefully in his hands with love to protect it and soon you will be able to see that.
Proverbs 21:1
In the Lord’s hand the king’s heart is a stream of water that he channels toward all who please him.
Jeremiah 33:6
“‘Nevertheless, I will bring health and healing to it; I will heal my people and will let them enjoy abundant peace and security.
He will heal you just allow Him to!!
Nicely done, Jewel.
Keep it SHORT. ✅
Encourage sharing 1-2 Promises. ✅
Bridge to the course He used to lead you along your Restoration Journey…but there are a bit too many even though all of them are a good choice.
P.S.
My Husband led me back here to begin COUNTING since He had us update #5
When we see a 3 Cord of comments supporting \o/\o/\o/ this bride, we will reply to her email and CLOSE this session. Thank you!!
So be sure to count so we don’t overwhelm the new brides and give her too much. What you can do is reply beneath the first 3 to confirm what that MM is saying, “Every fact is to be confirmed by the testimony of two or three witnesses.” 2 Corinthians 13:1
This IOU MM Session is now CLOSED. Thank you!
Now we hope to see this broken-hearted bride journalling and learning with her Husband, fostering a deep relationship with Him!